How to Identify Safe Spaces
Everyone deserves to have a safe space. There’s no denying we live in a chaotic world, and you might not always feel secure. Sometimes, uncertainty and fear can come from a physical location. Other times, it can simply be the result of the society we’re in. Things can often feel tumultuous, and having a place you can go to feel safe and secure is essential for your well-being.
Unfortunately, the term “safe space” has been misconstrued and even used as a trope in recent years. These issues don’t take away the importance of being able to identify safe spaces if you need one. If you’re in need of a safe space for therapy I hold active licenses in Idaho, Utah, Colorado, Connecticut, and Florida, offering secure teletherapy services across all five states.
So, how can you do that? Let’s take a look at how to identify safe spaces, and even how to create your own.
Free From Judgment
A safe space can be a place you go to feel secure from those who might intend to do you harm. But, that doesn’t necessarily mean physical harm.
At its very core, a safe space is somewhere you can go to be free from judgment and criticism. You can be yourself without worrying about what others might think about you. It’s human nature to want to be accepted. Unfortunately, that isn’t easy for everyone.
With that in mind, almost any place that allows you to be yourself without worrying about criticism or judgment could be a safe space. That’s the first characteristic you should look for.
Common Safe Spaces
Chances are, there are plenty of safe spaces in your own community. If you’re not sure where to start looking, consider public libraries, YMCAs, fire stations, or social service centers. Because safe spaces are becoming increasingly important across the country, it’s not uncommon for certain organizations or even buildings to have Safe Place signs in visible areas. These are there to let people know they can feel secure and accepted.
Who Needs a Safe Space?
The beauty of safe spaces it that they’re meant for anyone and everyone. If you’re feeling unsafe in whatever situation you might be facing, don’t hesitate to look for a safe space near you.
It’s not uncommon for members of the LGBTQIA+ community to need safe spaces, as well as minority groups who might face discrimination or racism. But, victims of abuse, single mothers, and even youths need safe spaces to meet like-minded individuals who can offer support in a safe setting.
Creating Your Own Safe Space
If you feel like you can’t identify a safe space near you, consider creating your own. Start by connecting with people who are willing to support you. Surround yourself with those who build you up and make you feel safe, no matter where you are. You could meet at someone’s house, a local restaurant, or even just online if you live far away from each other. Being able to feel that connection can give you a sense of assurance and peace.
Be kind to yourself every day. Start your morning with positive affirmations that will help to build your self-esteem and your self-worth. Having confidence in yourself and recognizing your worth will make it more difficult for people who want to judge you to bring you down. Additionally, consider journaling. It’s another great way to let go of anxious thoughts and know that you can write whatever you want freely and without judgment.
Finally, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. If you’re struggling to feel safe in your own skin, you don’t have to live like that forever. Therapy can help you better understand the root of your fear. It can also encourage you to build your confidence and find safety both in groups and on your own. Feel free to contact me for more information today.
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About the Author
Taylor Garff, M.Coun, LCPC, CMHC, LPC, is a licensed therapist with over 10 years of experience helping adults manage anxiety, overwhelm, and identity challenges. He is certified in HeartMath, Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), and breathwork facilitation. Taylor is the founder of Inner Heart Therapy, where he provides online therapy across multiple states.
