What does it mean to be an LGBTQ+ Ally?
The LGBTQ+ community has seen major strides and accomplishments over the last decade. But we’re nowhere near where we should be regarding equality, anti-discrimination, and acceptance.
It’s not enough for the community itself to continue fighting for their rights — it’s mainly up to allies that can help and support their LGBTQIA+ friends, family members, and other community members.
What does it actually mean to be an ally? How can you help to support this community now and in the future?
What Does an Ally Do?
There are many roles and responsibilities when it comes to being an ally. It can be as simple as standing up for and supporting those in the LGBTQIA+ community, or it can go further by being an ally and an activist.
When you’re an ally, community members see you as a supporter. They know you are a safe person willing to help and encourage them, even during difficult times. It’s essential for all of us to feel seen, heard, and valued. That’s not always easy for LGBTQIA+ individuals, which is why allies are so important and necessary to the strength of the community.
Representing a Community
Most LGBTQ+ allies are in the straight community, which is why it’s so essential that they back up their friends and family who identify as queer. On a small scale that includes being supportive of those individuals.
That’s only the beginning. Allies call out discrimination and work to provide a safe and equal world for everyone. When LGBTQIA+ individuals aren’t being heard, it’s the job of an ally to provide a voice for that community.
If you aren’t sure how to effectively represent the LGBTQIA+ community, one of the best things you can do is educate yourself. Being an ally means being well-versed in the community’s issues and how people are being directly impacted. Education can come from talking to your queer friends and family members, researching online, or attending LGBTQIA+ events. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. People will appreciate your desire to learn and grow.
What Can You Do to Be a Better Ally?
Chances are, you know at least one person in your close social circle that is a member of the LGBTQ+ community. Educating yourself on the issues they regularly face is a good place to start, but it’s just the beginning.
Once you have that knowledge, you can (and should) use it to take action. Check your privilege and confront any unconscious biases you might have. Be careful of the language you use. Attend rallies and events with your LGBTQ+ friends and family members.
Most importantly, show visible support. There’s a reason so many queer individuals use the phrase “coming out of the closet” when they finally decide to open up to the world about who they are. Many people still think that those identities should still be kept in the dark. If you really want to be an ally, don’t do so in private. Don’t be open to learning about the community and provide silent support. That implies you’re embarrassed or nervous about truly encouraging your LGBTQIA+ loved ones.
When you stand with them publicly, whether at a fun event, a local government meeting, or a place where they might not always be welcome, you’re showing the strength of a true ally.
Don’t hesitate to keep asking questions. Understand that you’ll make mistakes, and apologize when that happens. Most of your LGBTQ+ friends and family will be understanding and happy that you’re willing to grow and stand with them.
If you want to learn more about becoming a true ally, don’t hesitate to ask for support. We are always here for you and for those in the community. LGBTQ+ counseling can be a transformative place to begin making lasting changes.
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